2/18/2024 0 Comments Kink checklist template![]() * Stockades ::: Freestanding rigs that restricts the head, and often arms or legs too. * Cufflings ::: Wrapped around wrists and often ancles too, cufflings have little restrictions themselves, but using hooks and rope, they often makes it easier for the master to restrict the wearer spontaniously. Makes the wearer unable to grab or hold objects with their fingers. * Mitts ::: Cloth, leather or metal tools where you place your hands inside, often closed in a fist. * Leash ::: A leash is the rope between the wearer (often tied to a collar) and the master. * Gag ::: A rubber or plastic ornament placed in the mouth of the wearer, making them unable to speak. * Edging ::: The act of bringing the partner very close to orgasm, but giving the genitalia time to cool down, and then repeating the process. * Facials ::: The act of ejaculating directly on the face of the partner. * Handjobs / fingering ::: Stimulating the genitalia of the partner using mainly just hands. ![]() * Sleepover ::: Staying with your sexual partner overnight. * Using real names ::: Referring to the partner using real names, instead of pet or nicknames. * Spooning ::: Holding the partner close, often back to chest, and embracing them from behind. Hickies are listed under the light pain category. Blanket, water, something to eat, culldes, etc.* Kissing (body) ::: Planting kisses on various bodyparts.Will you have needed medications (inhaler, for example) and what should your partner do if you need them?.What should be done if there is an emergency?.Is there anything that should be avoided?.Do you have any health concerns that could affect the scene.This part of the negotiation checklist covers any health concerns, relationship details and the need for aftercare. What are you hoping to get out of the scene?.Will you be engaging in humiliation or degradation play?.Marks only where they can’t be seen by clothing/swimsuit/other.Bondage, impact, sensation, pain play, genitorture, etc.This section covers the details of the play being planned. If sexual activity will be involved, what safer sex precautions should be used?.Will sexual activity be involved in this scene?.It is important to be very specific when discussing sexual activity during a scene to avoid misunderstandings. In this section of the negotiation checklist, sexual activity is covered. If not, what are acceptable intoxication levels for each person in the scene?.Under what circumstances should the scene stop if things don’t go well?.Are there any warning signs of bad emotional space?.What are your hard limits (in general and for this scene)?.If you’re using safewords, what are they?.Will you be using safewords or plain language? (for info on safewords, watch my video on Youtube).This section of the negotiation checklist covers limits (hard and soft), safewords, pushing limits and the sobriety of the participants. ![]() This section of the negotiation checklist looks at the who, where and the timing of your scene. This is where the person in authority makes the decisions and the person giving up the authority obeys, even if they don’t want to. Opt-out negotiation means that anything is fair game except the hard limits or activities deemed off limits.Ĭonsensual Non-Consent is typically a relationship style, but some people do structure play within this type of structure. Opt-in negotiation means that only the activities discussed and agreed to are a part of play. Make sure you understand why style of consent and negotiation that you are involved in. That said, feel free to use any of these suggestions when negotiating relationship dynamics too. The list is more oriented towards play, where people will likely have similar topics to discuss, whereas relationships are very individual. This negotiation checklist is meant as a guideline to help you when planning play or dynamics with new people. We all hear about the importance of negotiation in BDSM play and relationships. ![]()
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